Taking Care of Our Teens Cont.


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Teens Need To Have High Self Esteem – How Can Their Parents Help?

In today’s world, we know that youngsters must have a healthy self-esteem in order to survive. They spend much of their time making choices that depend upon their ability to sort out consequences. Having high self esteem means that you believe in yourself, accept yourself – both strengths and weaknesses, respect yourself and others, like yourself and others, trust yourself, and make your own decisions – knowing what is right and right for you.

Discuss these traits with your teenager, and also explore what it means to have low self-esteem. They may recognize traits they see in themselves or their friends. Teens with low self-esteem lack self-confidence, do not accept themselves for who they are, do not have self-respect, may actively dislike themselves, distrust themselves, or let others make their decisions because they believe that what others think is more important than what they think.

Help Give Your Teen a Self-Esteem Boost.

  • Encourage your youngsters to know and explore their values. Explain that values are the things they believe in – like honesty and self-respect – and are the things they act on in their lives.
  • Encourage setting realistic goals. Help them determine what they want to accomplish today and over the summer and in the future. Help them write down their goals and make plans of how to reach them.
  • Help teens to make time every day to reflect on thoughts and feelings and do things they enjoy like reading, writing, playing, painting, or listening to music.
  • Encourage your teens to take pride in themselves. Praise them for accomplishments, and encourage them to pat themselves on the back for accomplishments, big or small. Encourage them to develop their abilities and to take pride in them.
  • Listen to your teens. Let them know that they really matter to you and to the family. Talk together every day.
  • Be positive. Express an interest in their work, school, friends, and activities.

More Parent Ideas Suggested by the Search Institute – Take it another step.

  • Greet teens when you see them; ask how they are doing.
  • Congratulate kids when they accomplish something.
  • Ask for their opinions and perspectives.
  • Spend time as a mentor, coach or other youth leader.
  • Invite neighborhood teens to “hang out” in your home (when you’re there). Take time to chat with them.
  • Advocate for youth having safe places to spend time with friends in the community.

Look for more resources from the Search Institute www.search-institute.org.

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One comment

  1. If your comments to your teenager are taunting in nature you are in no way building a relationship with that child. You are no better than a bully and certainly showing the child how little they mean to you!

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